How I Came Out of a Trauma When My Girlfriend Cheated on Me

There is nothing worse than betrayal. The gnawing feeling that eats you up when you trusted someone so much and then finding out later she has someone else. The moment I discovered her infidelity, everything seemed to be so surreal. A lot of questions came out of my mind. Am I not enough? Have I done something wrong? Am I worth nothing?

I went on searching for some help from web and came across; here I learned how to tackle this situation. I was advised by the users of SNiiTCH to confront her as soon as I discovered her secret. At first she remained quiet and unresponsive with all my inquiries. I asked her what’s the reason for her infidelity, and what I got was the most acrid answer, “I just thought that being with another girl will give me a different experience.”

I was shocked with her reason, as my mind was throbbing with all the angst and pain, it was only SNiiTCH that helped me consistently to overcome my trauma. It didn’t justify anything; it just added a lot of confusion into my mind. We try tried to patch things up. I thought it would be easy for me to forget. I thought and optimistically believed that every thing will be back to normal, and so I thought. I felt that our relationship has become irreparable. I no longer feel being loved. I became suspicious with her every move. At first I tried to repress myself, and convincing my mind that everyone deserves another chance. But for the second time around, my gut feeling was right—she didn’t deserve another chance as she hadn’t change.

The worse thing about breakup is not missing the person, but the habit and the routine you had built when you are with that person. And it seemed that every thing reminded you of her. The first few days were very hard as it was said by the users of SNiiTCH. I seemed that life was void and pointless. I tried to act as if nothing was wrong, but then I realized I was fettered with her memories because I couldn’t help but to think of her. Thankfully, there are friends that I can count on. They were my support, and they kept me preoccupied. But as the cliché goes, band-aid doesn’t cover deep wounds.

What I realized back then that the most effective panacea for the pain that is gnawing my heart is not to think about myself. This means that there is a lot of satisfaction when I help other people even in small things. When I do help other people, I was distracted with myself. There is a user from SNiiTCH who said that a minute of sadness is healthy, but more than that, it is what he called indulgence. Always remember that life is too short to wallow in our sadness and pain.

This may be an overused saying, but time really heals all wounds and sorrow. I think people have evolved to develop selective amnesia to forget painful things that keep them from being happy. And one thing for sure, recovering from the past will come out naturally if we just let ourselves move on, as we are gifted with a resilient heart.

And always remember these—love like you’ve never been hurt and live life like it would be your last day. Final thanks to, where I found all my solutions when I was passing my trauma of life.

April 23, 2008 at 3:47 AM Leave a comment

Being a SNiTCH is the new cool thing to do

This is what was said about SNiiTCH by

The concept seems so blatantly obvious, I had one of those, “why didn’t I think of that” moments. With Sniitch you can create an anonymous blog diary which anyone can read and comment on. Got any juicy secrets or criticisms you want to make, just Sniitch on them 😉

The advantage which Sniitch has over PostSecret is that it’s far easier to create, submit and find secrets. People can use this open forum to let off steam and obtain feedback in 3 areas (people, schools, companies). It’s got enormous viral potential and despite the ‘playful/innocent’ intentions of Sniitch, I wouldn’t be surprised to see lots of sociopathic bosses, cheating spouses, dubious corporate practises being exposed 🙂

April 19, 2008 at 1:54 AM 1 comment

SNiiTCH – Online Blog Diary

This is what was said about SNiiTCH by

Sniitch is a blog diary that is open to the public to read and participate in. Users may choose to “snitch on,” or post criticism, thoughts, and comments on three genres: people, schools, and companies. Users may also search posts on their topic that other site visitors have made. The concept is that site visitors may utilize this open forum to post their comments on the people, schools, and companies which they feel strongly about. Dialogue between users is encouraged through comment posts on previously posted Sniitches, hence allowing for the exchange of emotion and knowledge between users.

In their own words

“Welcome to Sniitch. Your public blog diary where you can write about anything and anyone. You are anonymous to the world but yet your blogs matter. They will be read, by a diverse audience of people from all around the world, waiting to read what you have to say. Have a juicy secret, dirt on a celebrity, witnessed a crime, want to give a shoutout to someone special, or just anything on your mind. Don’t keep it inside, share it with the world and set yourself free.”

Why it might be a killer

Potentially valuable knowledge for students and consumers is made available, as well as entertaining pieces of information to curious site surfers. Users can have fun with the site, while letting off steam and sharing information on topics that are of interest to them.

Some questions

Although users agree to use the site accurately, if there are users that abuse the site, could innocent people, schools, or companies be negatively affected by site posts? Conversely, could dishonest posts defend or state inaccurate information about an undeserving party? How would the site evolve if more users were to participate in the site and add content?

April 19, 2008 at 1:53 AM Leave a comment


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